Thursday, October 15, 2009
already in trouble, by DJ
OK so I did it.. I made a promise to someone about doing something I'm not so sure I really feel like doing 'right now'. But this person whom I made the promise to is holding me to it. Now I really don't want to do it and I'm not sure if it's because of the 'obligatory' notion of the promise or if I'm just not that interested in the activity I'm about to embark on.... more later...
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Is it the promise that you "had" to blog? (kidding)
ReplyDeleteOh, sister. Don't look at it like you are "already in trouble." It's so funny how we mark a day with a particular emphasis - like New Years Eve or our birthday or some other holiday or "special day" - the very weight of what these days carry. The anticipation. The expectations that they could be days that in reality never really deliver the experience we were hoping for. Today is day one. One day, the first day among 31 other days that stand before all of us brimming with possibility.
Still interested to hear how it all went down, though. How are you doing with the mindful, or sweet speech so far?
My own experience about promising to do something with or for another person and then not coming through is that the guilt repercussions are more painful than doing the right thing to begin with...I'm doing something tonight which is not my first choice for a great Friday night...sometimes that's just part of being a grown up and putting the bigger picture ahead of your own preferences...I don't know that what I just said is "yoga" or just being part of a family
ReplyDeleteMaybe the promise needs to be shifting perspectives in with respect to our promises. Can we all agree that we can't fail, screw up or be in "trouble" this month? At the same time that doesn't mean unabashed, illicit behaviors - okay enjoy a few!
ReplyDeleteAmen to that!!
ReplyDeleteBut, did you make the promise to please them or to please you? I think that's where we fall short - that's where the feeling of obligation lies. To keep a promise, to really feel like it's something work keeping - you have to be inspired by it, regardless of the challenge you face in it.
ReplyDeleteIf the promise is made out of obligation and not a deep desire - you're sure to break it. It sets up unrealistic expectation and inevitable disappoinment. You'll do it with dread, and what purpose does that serve anyone?